When sin is better than doing right
I have noticed lately that Muslims seem to have no problem encouraging other Muslims to sin. I am just amazed at that. How can we tell people it is ok to do somethign that is CLEARLY haraam.
I know we all fall short nd mess up from time to time. I have done my share of sin in my life. But NEVER would I tell a person to do what I did or say well it is haraam but I am glad you are happy with what your doing.???? WTHellmens mayo! I just dont get it.
One of my favorite surah is al asr
By Al-’Asr
Verily! Man is in loss
Except those who believe (in Islamic Monotheism) and do righteous good deeds, and recommend one another to the truth (i.e. order one another to perform all kinds of good deeds (Al-Ma’ruf)which Allah has ordained, and abstain from all kinds of sins and evil deeds (Al-Munkar)which Allah has forbidden), and recommend one another to patience
I think I say this sura Everyday when I pray. I like it because it reminds me Muslims are not perfect BUT it is our job to remind each other to stay away from what Allah forbids and to be the best Muslims we can be.
So why is it that we are so eagar to allow our brothers and sisters to sin. Why is it we dont try to stop them or at least REMIND them that they are doing wrong.
It does not matter what WE think. It is what Allah says PERIOD!! I am so sick of hearing peopel say ” I dont think it is haraam, or I feel Allah does this or that” WHO CARES WHAT YOU THINK. your feelings really dont count when it is what you think and what ALlAH says. Yes, that is hard to digest at time but it is the truth. Yes, we will all make mistakes and many of us, including me, will do the same mistake over and over again. However we should not have a PEP squad cheering us on to do wrong.
I love someone to death. I consider them one of my best friends and they are doing something that is just wrong Islamicly. Yes, I love them and I will still be friends with them BUT no way will I support what they are doing. However, for some reason there are SOOOOOOOOOOOOO many people that are just cheering them on and supporting their choice.
WHY???? WTFUDRUCKERS is going on with this Ummah??????
My new friend did something recently that just shocked me. She didnt have any remorse fo rit and felt like she didnt have to make Toba, ask Allah to forgive her, for it. She even looked to get support and agreement from me. I coudl nto do that. I WHOLE hearltedly disagree with her actions and I see her digging herself deeper and deeper into a whole and my hope is that she does not dig herself so far she cant get out.
BUT she does have another Muslim friend that is cheering her on and IMO is cheering her right into a path that leads to hell. Why would a friend do that to another friend. No, we may not like hearing things that hurt our feeling and we may want to do what we want but isnt it better to have someone love you and show you with truth and honesty.
This is not about judging peopel or being anyone judge. It is about accepting people for who they are BUT also being a good enough friend to tell them when they are doign something wrong or just say NOTHING thats better than cheering them on.
oh, just so you know….Please dont think I am talking about things that can go either way. I am not talking about grey area I am talking about things that are CLEARLY haraam. Things that are in Quran and or hadiths.
Salaams Sis:
You forgot “Don’t judge me, Allah will do that on the Last Day”
Ya Allah sis. I feel ya.
A look around the Muslim blogosphere will reveal exactly what you are saying. And I have been saying NOTHING. I don’t want attacked and all the fitnah that goes along with it. Before you know it, they’re calling you the “haraam police” Ya Allah.
Anyhow, I am reminded of the hadith for enjoining the good and forbidding the evil. They are 3 ways to do so: by hand, by tongue, and then hating it in your heart.
My heart has been hating a lot lately.
Im glad I am NOT the only one seeing things and feeling the way I feel.
Asalaamu alaikum,
I know exactly how you feel.
And honestly, it seems like whenever you tell someone that it’s haram, the more they are in denial. I wish I could offer you some good advice but you are already doing the best you can. So please make dua. And may Allah ta’ala make it easier for you.
As salaam alaikum,
I think the busy body, “Quran thumping” type of Muslims have ruined the whole naisha vibe. There have been so many people who deem everything haram. Sometimes as soon as people hear the word they’re already tuning out. I also think it’s all in the approach too. Sometimes people are not rejecting the Quran or Hadith but the person’s way of giving the advice to them. (Not saying you were rude in the advice).
I also think there are different perspectives on what is “clearly haram”. Some people think things that fall in the gray area are “clear’ because of their position on a matter. Then there are the things that scholars are divided on. Some people are on one side of the issue and think that the other person is “clearly” doing wrong if the person doesn’t fall on their side.
I don’t know, I think the line is very thin between judgment and imposing yourself on someone and giving advice. I think if you give someone advice and they don’t accept it (or won’t accept it) then a person should move along. Someone of us are trying to force other people into doing what we think is right and you can’t. People are at different levels of understanding and practice of Islam.
I agree 100%. There are too many people that are soooooooooooo willing to jump on you when you are doign something THEY think is haraam. YES< there are tons of things that are ok for some and not ok for others.
I am not talkign about those things in the case that I am talking about I dont think there are any GREY areas. I doubt is practicing Muslim in their right mind would tell a woman she did not do any sin if she had oral sex with a man but he was the one doing it. This woman feels he did the sin and not her. She has people telling her she is right…..However, I know what she did is clearly WRONG HARAAM BIG TIME…..
Assalaamu alaikum,
I know exactly what you mean. It is pretty disheartening. I have a friend I am dealing with this issue with as we speak. I am trying to figure out how to tell her NOT to mention any of her haraam exploits to me for fear she will confuse a caring ear for me accepting her behavior. Oh, WTFudruckers…can I steal that? LOL
YES, that is what I am dealing with. I have 2 friends dealing with men issues nd both are doing some crazy stuff and one of them thinks me listenign to her means I agree with her actions. I DONT. I told her and she just does nto get it. OH WELL>>>>>>>>>>>>yes take the WTFudruckers……..LOL I LOVE IT
Asalamu Alaykom
From
Al-Hajj 84:
“To me shall be accounted my doings, and to you, your doings: you are not accountable for what I am doing, and I am not accountable for whatever you do.”
was, YUP YOU will be and so will I but it is still our duty to tell help others to not keep ding things that are not right.
Salaams Yosra:
Al-Hajj 84 – is that correct? Did you mean to write another surah?
Aww, man, it’s a man issue?! Well, you’ll really be fighting against a brick wall. When people think they’re in love, they lose all sense. May Allah ta’ala make it easy for you. Justifying oral sex?! Subhan’Allah….
SubhanAllah I find sometimes especially online that life isn’t always black and white and a whole lot lands int he Grey. If I tella sister she’s doing wrong she will either accept, rarily; deny and say I suck for telling her; deny and say Islam is full of haters and Islam is not for her if we are gonna be yelling down her tailpipe (hello not yelling in the firsrt place. So with reactions like this I try to be supportive tot eh sister esp if I’m worried she will leave Islam but I do say that i think something is not right but I still want to be there for her in her time of hardship.
I agree with saf, soemtimes starting these convos leads to fitna and heartache, so i try to keep it internal unless for external opinions.
Allahu Alim. But I totally support you for being strong!
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IZZY, if it was a love thing I could see it. It is a LUST thing. She does not even have feelings for the guy…………