We may have reached an all time low
I came accross this
http://www.thestar.com/News/article/434910
It is the husband of the woman safas husband married. Did I say that right? Anyway I had no idea he was still married to MM when the hubbyex married her. CAN YOU SAY WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!!!!
how can that Imam marry a married woman to any man? This just goes to show you how sick this ummah is. Not only did this man go around telling men to marry women and not tell their first wife they have married . Something that is WRONG, marriage in Islam is NOT suppose to be a secret. We have hadiths to back that up. But this man also keeps secrets of the married woman as well. I guess he felt like he didn’t have to tell her first husband that she had a second husband….MAN
Is there a new thing is Islam that allows women to have more than one husband . If there is I am all for it. I can sure use some pay back and let these men see how it feels to be neglected and used, how it feels to be waiting for a visit, phone call, or email….how about let them see me get all dressed up and smelling good and it is not for them………let them stay in bed alone while I am on a honeymoon.
Ok, back to the post…….lost it for a mins. LOL
I feel sorry for Safa but I really feel sorry for this man. Even though what Safa’s husband did was horrible ; we all thought it was halal. Now we find out it wasn’t. This man just got his whole world turned upside down. What ever happened to an Imam helping families, not breaking them up!
Maybe I am clueless and the need for sex is greater than the need to be a Muslim. Maybe an orgasm is stronger than prayer, or a marriage bond. Last time I heard a Muslim was a person that submitted to the will of ALLAH. Seems to be nowa days it has a different meaning. It seems to be a person that submits to their own will, whims, needs, lust and desires.
Yes, I read it and blogged about it, too. It’s pretty smelly, isn’t it? But then to be honest, it seems that most of what passes for “Islamic polygyny” these days is pretty stinky.
OMG, I really CANNOT believe it. Subhanallah, I’m even happier now that Safa left her adulterous ex-husband.
Don’t these people fear Allah swt? Married people committing zina like there’s no problem!
And the stupid Imam on top of everything helping them out. Wow, with “spiritual leaders” like this… it’s no wonder our communities are in such a horrible state!
OMG!!! What a shocker, and a plot-thickner indeed! The same man – wow. That was awful, that he walked in and saw Safa’s husband in his home with his wife – oh my, I feel so bad for him and those children.
Ok, now I know of a married couple (my landlord and his wife) who got married before she was legally divorced. She had been married to a brother out in England, and she was visiting her family in Boston when she met my landlord. So eventually the two of them wanted to marry each other, and her ex-husband and her were divorced islamically (talaaq) but the legal proceeding was not yet done. I heard that one imam refused to marry them because of that, but they went to another one and got it done because she met the eligibility based on the fact she had talaaq. But she was still legally married in England.
I don’t know, this is VERY interesting, and complicated. I know like EVERYONE disagrees with me, but I do still believe that under Islamic law, polygyny counts no matter where people live because they are coming together before Allah, as practiced by the Prophet (SAW) and I do feel that the laws making polygyny illegal go against Islam and I don’t feel like a marriage contract in a country that has a law against an Allah-approved practice is necessary for those polygynous marriages. I feel that in my heart…I don’t think it is unislamic for people in the Western world to enter polygyny while here.
However, I am unsure about this thing about MM and the guy still being married, because did the husband in the article give MM a talaaq? Did her iddah pass? They were seperated in the legal system, so what if the Islamic procedure was followed for divorce?
At the same time though, the marriage contract is still important and the two people are still considered married by the law of the land until they are divorced in the law of the land. Does it count islamically? I think it does, but I don’t know to what extent. Like me, I am divorced, my previous “husband” is haraam to me. But we are not divorced in court yet…so is he still my husband although Allah’s ruling in the Qur’an is that once talaaq is given and the iddah passed (or if it is the third talaaq) then the two are divorced, done? So I know we have to go with the laws of the land – but the laws of divorce by Allah ARE fardh, so which supercedes? I think this would be a great discussion. I wonder if scholars have ruled on this? I might search online, but that gets so confusing when looking for rulings because sometimes you have to wonder which is opinion and which is ruling.
Assalamu ` alaykum,
I thought about the same thing sis Mumina but I think that…
a) The had filed for “separation” in family court, not divorce…
b) The woman was still living in the house with the husband… so even if he had pronounced talaq, the iddah was prolly not over since they were living together
c) If the had indeed been divorced, then I don’t think that the husband would have said “what are you doing alone here with my wife” …
Truly… sad
I know a guy who married his friend’s ex wife days after the talaqq, he sought advice from the imam, he was advised to wait until the iddah period was over, they did not and went on to live togather.