I did not want to do it

a few months ago I was asked to help with a book on the BIG “P”. I quickly said no becuase in my mind I thought it would cause more harm than good. I thought it would be an anti Islamic book filled with how Islam oppresses blah blah blah. I recently found out I can do this thing the way I want. I can help give a true picture from the eyes of the suffering woman. Not in a way that makes Islam look bad but rather the system that keeps the crap going on. These Imams and brothers that break laws, tell lies, keep secrets, break hearts, family and sprits. After reading Safas story and thinking about my own story; how can I not do this.  I want to let the world see this thing is real and we do feel pain. I want to let sisters that have this fairlytale view of the big P to THINK two , three or maybe four times before they enter into this. I want to show the good the bad and the ugly. I remember reading a book and in the end all the women just surrendered to the will of ALLAH. What if your husbands marriage was not his will and just his own. What if the wife is living a complete nightmare that makes her life a living hell? Then what?

SO, here is my offer to you……if you lived it and survived, if your in it and want to tell sisters abotu the pain you feel, if your in it and love it tell  us why, If you are a man that wanted it and chose not to, tried it and foud out it is not all you thought it would be, if your  a man and know you did harm to your wives and want to share your story with others. Please email me at livinglifeandlovinit@gmail.com . I will tell you what we need and if your story is picked for the book you will get paid.

I am so sick of reading story after story heart break after heart break. This thing will not end. Ok, but there need to be some solutions for the problem there needs to be some punishment to fit the crimes. Imans need to stop joining the ole boys club and start listening to the women. We women need to stop eating each others flesh and start supporting each other. We are not the enemy! We are the victims. we need to have help for the sisters that flee their homes in the middle of the night. We need help for the mentally abused children. We need money, homes, doctors, cars, clothes, food and everythign the christians have to help each other. We need to STOP feeling ashamed to ask for help. We need to stop feeling like we did something wrong. We need to each other…….

Now I am not saying I am against the big P. I do not want to get the flack for you that are happy withthe man you have. If it works for you alhumduillah……..gald for you may allah continue to bless you and YOUR situation. BUT for the many many many woman that this thing does not work. for the women that find themselves bitter, leaving Islam, leaving their families, and losing their minds, heart, husband, and life. This is for them………share your story and help other women before is enters into the misery and dispair that is the big P.

 

~ by livinglifeandlovinit on May 25, 2008.